Sunday, April 10, 2016

Family Update

We have some fun new things going on that I should probably document just so I have it in the future.

First, Haley played a clarinet solo for a competition and scored a 1. We are so proud of her. The sad thing is that we have/she has decided to drop band for next year and try athletics. Since school isn't the easiest thing for my kids, I try to be realistic in my expectations and not let my kids over-commit themselves. So I made her choose for next year.

Speaking of middle school athletics, Thursday of this week Haley has an overall conditioning clinic at Coble and then I have a mandatory parents meetings immediately following. We went and bought her some nice running shoes and athletic clothes in preparation for next year. She has pretty small feet (size 5) which allowed me to get the largest size of kids shoes and save $20 or so.

Katelynn also started an 8 week dance class/lesson last Friday. She has been begging to try dance and I found a Christian dance studio in Mansfield about 15 minutes from my house. My hesitation has always been that a lot of dance studios tend to make little girls dance sexy or wear sexy costumes. I hope that with a Christian dance studio I won't have to deal with that as much. The first sentence on the front page of their website says:
The Dance Academy of Mansfield equips each student to be a positive witness for Christ, as well as reaching their full potential as dancers.
I think this will be a good place for her to try dance and decide if its something she enjoys and determine if it is something she is good at or not.

6 Months and 7 months

So obviously I am doing a horrible job of keeping up with my monthly posts about Julia, so once again, you are getting 2 months at once.



At 6 months (more like 6.5) she weighed 15 pounds 14 ounces, and was 26 inches long. This puts her in the 40-50th percentile for everything and a smaller head. That is such the opposite for Seth. I keep saying this, but I am so amazed how two babies can be so different. God is so creative. Think about it. I have no idea how many people have been born ever but no 2 of them are exactly the same (except if they are twins). It just amazes me how many different ways that DNA can be rearranged and make each of us unique.

She is wearing size 6-9 months and can fit some bigger depending on what it is. I have a hard time fitting her feet because she has fat/tall feet but they aren't long. The 1s fit if the shoe is tall enough and wide enough, but shoes that are sized by age never fit correctly. My biggest fit issues is socks and shoes, but since she isn't walking yet, I'm not too worried about it. I did manage to get cute church sandals for her the other day when I was buying dance shoes for Katelynn and Julia was with us. I've about decided I can't buy shoes for Julia unless she is with me.

At 6 months she had tried more food and really liked everything she's tried. I would guess she probably prefers fruit to veggies, but what baby doesn't. She had started babbling quite a bit and drooling more, so I expected teeth soon. She has also started moving around a lot. She isn't crawling, more like rolling and scooting where she wants to go. And she is usually happy on the ground moving about the house. I think she'll be crawling soon, but she hasn't been able to pull up onto her knees yet so we will see. Seth never crawled, so I am kinda enjoying this roll everywhere, roaming the house stage. Seth went straight to standing up soon after this time and was walking at 11 months.

At a little after 7 months, Julia got her first tooth and has since got her second tooth within of about 10 days of each other. They are the bottom center teeth. She has also recently decided to be more of a mama's girl. Until now, she would pretty much go to anyone but now, if I'm in the room, she has to be near me. I really want her to get over this. Once I'm out of sight she does better. I think if she was my first child I may worry more about it, but it doesn't bother me really. I just feel bad for whomever is watching her and am not really good about knowing when to rescue her/them and when to let her cry it out.


Our routine is such that I usually go with Seth to put him to bed while BJ stays down stairs with crying Julia. He gets her to sleep while I am in the shower. I come downstairs to her asleep, wake her up to feed her again about 10 and then go to bed.

She's also started waking up in the middle of the night to eat again. She went such a long stretch (from about 2 months to 6) sleeping all night, so it's really a bummer she's waking up again. I think it may be related to her teething. She seems to be eating less more often (which is sad for a nursing mama) but we will survive this too. I had almost forgotten that as soon you seem to have a routine, babies grow and change again.

She is super adaptable to whatever is going on now that she's eating food. I do still generally nurse her every 4 hours during the day, but she can usually go an additional 30 minutes to an hour (or eat a little earlier) if the schedule would make that easier (dropping off/picking up kids at events).

Time is going by fast and I'm just trying to enjoy every moment.



Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Songs for the Kiddos

When Seth was little, I wrote him a little song and would sing it to him to make him happy when he was fussy or getting his diaper changed or whatever. Haley asked me to write her a song about the same time and I just never got around to it.

Well since Julia was born I have also written her a song. None of these are anything big really, but just something catchy and easy to remember.

So I've felt kinda bad because I haven't written little songs for the big kids. Honestly, when are you with your 12 year old trying to entertain her and keep her from crying? Never. So the songs for them have not really been necessary.

This week, Seth, who had no idea I had not made up songs for the big kids, asked me to sing Haley, Daniel, and Katelynn's songs. So I obliged and made up songs for them on the fly. Just for the sake of documenting, here are the lyrics for the kids songs.

Haley
H is for the way you help me
A is for the awesome women you'll be
L for oh so lovely
E for extra extra funny
Y, yes you're the girl for me.

Daniel
Daniel, Daniel he's our man. If he can't do it no one can. 
He's so strong, he's so smart, he really is a work of art.
Daniel, Daniel he's our man. If he can't do it no one can.

Katelynn
K A T, that spells kat
L Y (why) because she loves me
N N she's my friend. Katelynn is my friend.

Seth
S is for super boy
E is for extraordinary
T is for talks to me
H is for happy happy
Seth, Seth S E T H Seth.
I love my boy and he loves me. S E T H Seth

Julia
Julia Julia she's my girl
Julia Julia loves to twirl
Julia Julia she's so fun
Julia you're the one.

Sunday, March 27, 2016

Dismissed

This past week we had Haley's ARD/IEP meeting at school. If you aren't in the special education world, this is the annual meeting where accommodations are evaluated for their effectiveness and an education plan in put in place for the next 12 months.

I normally dread these meetings and have been known to leave feeling either frustrated or hopeless and in tears. I know it's just a part of getting Haley the help she needs, if any, but it is so hard being a parent and trying to make the best decision for your kids without knowing the result of each different tactic until it is tried. But this meeting was different.

Haley has been dismissed from Special Education because she doesn't need the help any more. Praise God! Now it is all on her shoulders. We (the teachers and I) are confident she can do well if that's what she decides to do. The vice principal has high hopes for her! I just hope her being more in the general education population will give her better opportunities and different choices for friends. I'm looking forward to the future!

Monday, March 14, 2016

Strength

The joy of the Lord is my strength. Nehemiah 8:10

Saturday, I was sitting at work and I was mad. About situations. About things that are happening to me without my consent ( I guess we would just call it life in general.)

And the Holy Spirit spoke to me. It was more like a knife to the gut.

When you choose to be mad and angry instead of living in my joy, you are choosing to be weak instead of strong.

Who consciously chooses to be weak when strength is close by? I guess I do, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

If only we would partake in all God intends for us, our lives would be very different.

Just a thought.

Sunday, March 6, 2016

Gracious and Compassionate

For the LORD is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger, abounding in love. Psalm 145:8

As we travel this Christian journey, I feel like we hold onto a certain part of God's character more than others. There was a time in my life when I focused on the faithfulness of God. Right now, I keep coming back to this verse in Psams. Every time I start to pray my mind comes back to this verse and I find myself thanking God for being compassionate and gracious.

Maybe it's because it is hard for me to be compassionate. It isn't in my nature, especially if I feel like the person is being irresponsible or making bad choices that are putting them in the place that requires my compassion. I expect people to have common sense and try everything they can to help themselves before sharing their story and asking for help from others. I don't like people who are always the victim. All that to say I am probably the opposite of compassionate. And yet God is compassionate towards me when I mess things up.

I have a temper. I blow up when I shouldn't and have to ask for forgiveness often. I put expectations on others that they can't meet and then I'm mad when they don't measure up. I get mad when I don't measure up. And then I feel bad for not being more patient like I want others to be with me. But God is slow to anger.

My love is tough love a lot. I'm not really a touchy feely huggy kind. But I love hugs and need a gentle touch from time to time. I'm just not usually the one to initiate. And I make people feel unloved because I tend to show my love by telling it like it is. But God is abounding in love toward me even when I feel unloveable.

When I compare myself to him, I know that I have a long way to go. I'm so glad he doesn't give up on my and all my failings.

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Out of the Whirlwind

Job 38:1 Then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind and said...

Ever been in a storm? I think the loudest place you can be during a hail storm is in a car. I remember one time when Bj and I were dating and we got caught in his car when the heavens opened up and the rain started pouring down. And then the hail started hitting the car. Although we were sitting next to each other in his GrandAm, we could hardly hear what the other was saying. It was loud!

I know I hear a lot about being still before God and letting him speak, but today this verse reminded me that God can speak to us from the middle of the whirlwind when nothing in our lives is still or quiet.

And that's where I am right now. Everything is loud and busy and unsettled.

And I believe He'll yell over the storm if he has to in order to let us know He's with us and hasn't left us. Scripture tells us he kinda likes to show up in storms. To tell us not to fear. To push us to trust him and get out of the boat. To catch us when our faith wavers and we find ourselves sinking.

I looked back a few verses to see if I could find out anymore about Job's storm and didn't see any indication of a physical storm. I wonder if this whirlwind was an emotional turmoil Job was going through. He'd done nothing wrong and yet his friends accused him of sins he didnt commit. His reputation was being drug through the dirt and as much as he tried, Job had a hard time understanding the reason for the struggles he was facing. And God was silent as Job just had to trust God without hearing any confirmation he was still there.

And then God spoke.

There are 2 chapters full of God reminding Job of His almighty power. Verse after verse describing how big God is and how little Job is/we are in comparison. Job had no reason to worry if God was big enough to meet his needs. Wondering if God would really be the God Job knew so well, even in the storm.

Yes, even in the storm, God is big enough. Big enough to restore Job and his possessions double. And big enough to handle whatever whirlwind I find myself in, too!